Faith Facts

• The counseling profession has become overwhelmingly female-dominated, with men representing a shrinking minority of practitioners serving families and churches
• A veteran Christian counselor argues the shortage of male counselors creates unique challenges for men seeking faith-based mental health support
• The gender imbalance in Christian counseling may be leaving countless men without relatable mentors during their most vulnerable moments

The counseling rooms of America’s churches and Christian practices tell a story many haven’t noticed. Walk into most faith-based counseling centers today, and you’ll find a profession that has quietly become dominated by women, leaving men in need of guidance with fewer options that match their specific needs.

A veteran counselor is sounding the alarm on what he sees as a critical gap in ministry. His message cuts against the grain of typical diversity conversations.

“In counseling, there aren’t too many women. There are too few men.”

The observation raises important questions about how the church serves its entire congregation. Men facing marriage struggles, addiction, spiritual crisis, or mental health challenges often benefit from counsel that understands their unique perspective and communication style.

The shift didn’t happen overnight. Over recent decades, counseling and related helping professions have seen men exit in significant numbers, creating what some see as an unintended ministry gap.

Christian communities have long valued the nurturing gifts women bring to counseling and pastoral care. That contribution remains invaluable and irreplaceable. But the near-absence of men from the field creates its own set of concerns, particularly for a faith tradition that emphasizes the distinct and complementary roles of men and women.

Some men struggling with personal issues may find it difficult to open up to female counselors about certain challenges. Others may simply lack male role models who can speak into their lives with both professional insight and shared understanding of masculine struggles.

The veteran counselor’s call represents more than professional concern—it’s a spiritual challenge. He’s urging young Christian men to consider counseling not as a fallback career, but as a vital calling that combines compassion, wisdom, and the opportunity to restore broken lives.

Churches and Christian educational institutions may need to actively recruit and encourage men toward counseling professions. That might mean highlighting male counselors as examples of biblical manhood, offering mentorship programs, or creating pathways that make the profession more accessible and appealing to men.

The mental health crisis affecting American men—reflected in higher suicide rates and lower help-seeking behavior—makes this shortage even more pressing. Christian men need Christian male counselors who can meet them where they are, speaking their language while pointing them toward Christ.

As the church continues to navigate questions of service, calling, and ministry effectiveness, the counseling gap presents a clear opportunity. The question is whether Christian men will answer the call to fill it.

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Faith Facts

• Both progressive gender ideology and toxic masculinity influencers like Andrew Tate reject biblical manhood
• True masculinity rooted in Scripture calls men to servant leadership, not domination or abdication
• Christian men are called to protect, provide, and cherish women as image-bearers of God

America faces a masculinity crisis that neither the secular left nor internet provocateurs can solve. While progressive culture dismantles traditional manhood and toxic influencers promote exploitation, both paths lead our sons astray from God’s design.

The modern left has spent decades attacking masculinity itself, pushing gender confusion and celebrating the feminization of men. Drag performances in schools, attacks on fatherhood, and the erasure of male and female distinctions have left young men without healthy models.

Into this vacuum stepped figures like Andrew Tate, whose online empire peddles a counterfeit masculinity built on materialism, sexual conquest, and the objectification of women. His brand of manhood—now facing serious criminal allegations—represents everything biblical masculinity opposes.

Both models fail because both reject God’s blueprint. Progressive ideology denies the reality of manhood altogether. Tate-style influencers pervert it into selfish dominance.

Scripture offers a third way—one America desperately needs to rediscover. Biblical masculinity calls men to sacrificial love, not exploitation. Strength in service, not self-glorification. Leadership through humility, not domination.

The Apostle Paul instructs husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church—giving Himself up for her. This is the pattern: authority exercised through sacrifice, strength channeled toward protection, masculinity expressed in covenant faithfulness.

Christian men are commanded to honor women as co-heirs of grace, not trophies to collect or obstacles to eliminate. Real manhood protects the vulnerable, provides for families, and points others toward Christ.

Our culture’s confusion stems from rejecting this design. When men abandon their God-given roles, chaos follows. When they twist those roles into tyranny, destruction results.

The solution isn’t found in cultural Marxism’s war on manhood or in the hollow machismo of internet grifters. It’s found in returning to the unchanging truth of Scripture.

Fathers must disciple their sons in biblical manhood. Churches must preach it without apology. Communities must celebrate men who embody it—coaches who mentor, fathers who sacrifice, husbands who cherish, leaders who serve.

America’s boys deserve better than drag story hours and Andrew Tate videos. They deserve the truth: that God created them male for a purpose, that masculinity is good when rightly ordered, and that their greatest calling is to reflect Christ.

The battle for masculinity is ultimately a battle for the soul of our nation. Strong families require strong fathers. Healthy communities need godly men. The future depends on raising boys who understand that real strength protects the weak, real leadership serves others, and real manhood honors God.

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Faith Facts

• An American visitor was invited to participate in a multi-day Vietnamese funeral ceremony, experiencing profound Christian fellowship across cultures
• The memorial service featured Scripture from Revelation 14:13, celebrating eternal rest for believers who die in the Lord
• Missionary Tom Tune’s compassionate outreach transformed an impoverished Vietnamese family, leading to multiple baptisms and the launch of a thriving Christian English school

Imagine preparing to host a visitor from halfway around the world when a beloved family member suddenly passes away. Most of us would scramble to find another host, worried about imposing grief on a stranger.

But that’s not how faith works in Vietnam, where the body of Christ transcends cultural boundaries in ways that put our Western sensibilities to shame.

Shortly after arriving in Ho Chi Minh City to meet contact Hai Huynh, an American visitor found himself whisked away on the back of a scooter to the funeral of Nguyen Chau Son, a man he’d never met. What could have been an awkward intrusion became a profound lesson in Christian community and the eternal hope we share in Christ.

Nguyen’s casket stood in a family room opening onto a neighborhood street in Can Tho, a city of 1.5 million in Vietnam’s Mekong Delta. Above the casket hung a digital sign scrolling messages of mourning.

Elaborate floral arrangements filled the room. Next to Nguyen’s photo stood a Bible verse in Vietnamese—Revelation 14:13.

“I heard a voice from heaven saying, ‘Blessed are those who die in the Lord from now on! The Holy Spirit said, ‘Yes, for they rest from their labors, and their works follow them.'”

The visitor had met Nguyen’s stepdaughter, Ngan, more than a decade earlier in Oklahoma City. Legendary sailor and longtime South Pacific missionary Tom Tune brought her by for introductions as she started graduate school at Oklahoma Christian University.

While working in Vietnam, Tom had started a program helping poor Vietnamese families pay for education. His efforts resulted in multiple baptisms, including Nguyen and his entire family—a testament to the power of practical Christian love.

Ngan, once shy and overwhelmed, had returned to Vietnam and launched an English school with multiple campuses serving hundreds of students. Even while mourning her stepfather, she greeted her American friend warmly.

In Vietnam, funerals are multi-day affairs. The family set up two tents and tables in the street and began cooking—and cooking and cooking.

Between visits into the countryside to meet families served by the growing Church of Christ in Can Tho, someone was always preparing a meal, always pulling guests toward tables to share in feasts. Plate after plate of prawns, beef, pork and chicken appeared, along with great bowls of pho, the Vietnamese soup with rice noodles.

The food was amazing, but the fellowship proved even better. Extended family members and teachers from the English school gathered to share stories and laughter.

We often say we want funerals to feel like celebrations. This one genuinely did—a true celebration of eternal life in Christ, not morbid ritual or empty ceremony.

At least once daily, mourners gathered around the casket as Hai led hymns in Vietnamese, including “I Need Thee Every Hour” and “There’s Sunshine in My Soul.” The American visitor was asked to pray for the family—mercifully, in English.

On the final morning, men in red uniforms with yellow stripes arrived to take down the scrolling sign and load the casket onto an elaborately ornamented truck. Ngan, her mother (known as “Miss Eight”), and immediate family wore white, Vietnam’s traditional mourning color, and carried photos of Nguyen.

At the cemetery and crematorium about 20 minutes away, after more hymns and prayers, the family said final goodbyes and shed tears. The visitor found himself remembering loved ones lost over the past decade—evidence of how shared grief in Christ transcends all earthly divisions.

He also thought about countless lives lost in the decades-long Vietnam conflict. The war changed and damaged so many Americans who served there.

What a blessing it would be if Vietnam veterans able to travel could experience the wonderful hospitality of these amazing people—to see how God’s redemptive power can heal even the deepest wounds between nations.

Steve Hawley, a longtime educator and church member from Houston who spends a month annually working with the school, wasn’t surprised by the story. Over the years, he’s participated in weddings and betrothal ceremonies in Vietnam.

“When you are there, you are family!”

Maybe we should invite fellow believers—even those we don’t know well—to our memorial services. If indeed we’re to bear each other’s burdens and share each other’s lives, as Paul tells us in Galatians 6, shouldn’t we participate in each other’s mourning?

This is what the universal Church should look like—crossing oceans, cultures, and languages to demonstrate that in Christ, we truly are family.

Memories of a Transformed Life

Ngan shared reflections about her stepfather that reveal the transformative power of Christian compassion:

“He was a very kind and loving man. Even though I was not his biological child, he treated me very kindly and supported me through school.

As each year began, he would take me on an old motorcycle (borrowed from a neighbor) to buy new schoolbooks, notebooks and a schoolbag.”

“He treated me fairly, just like his own biological child. Every week, he gave me 20,000 VND (50 cents) to put into my piggy bank so that when Vietnamese Tết (New Year) came around, I could use that money to buy new clothes.”

Nguyen married Ngan’s mother and moved to the countryside where her grandmother lived, working as a farmer. They built a small thatched hut in the middle of the field and grew vegetables, papayas and oranges to sell.

But they still faced tremendous difficulties without enough money to live comfortably.

“They were very poor, and the neighbors looked down on them. There was a wedding near our home involving a family that was related to us, but they did not invite my stepfather and mother because they thought that my parents were very poor and that would affect their reputation.”

“My mother was looked down upon and treated very badly by our neighbors and relatives. When she asked to borrow money and food, they told her to leave and cursed her.

They would not let their children be friends with me because they said my mother was not a respectable woman because she had been married three times (before she came to know God). They did not let their children sit in the same class as me.”

Hoping for better opportunities, the family moved to Saigon (Ho Chi Minh City). Four families—15 people total—lived together in one house with only one bathroom.

Nguyen worked as a security guard for very little pay. A neighbor lent Ngan’s mother a sewing machine so she could mend clothes to help support the family.

“Although our family life was somewhat more stable than when we were in the countryside, we still faced great financial difficulties. My stepfather’s friends were other security guards, and my mother’s friends were lottery ticket sellers and recyclables collectors—people from the poorest classes of society.

Our family was never invited to any parties either.”

Then everything changed when they met Tom Tune in 2005. Tom came to their house and invited the family to eat at a buffet restaurant.

“It was the first time in our lives that we had eaten such delicious food and sat in such a luxurious place.”

“From that point on, our family came to know God. Tom helped my sister and me get money for our education through his ministry, Tom’s Kids, and my parents’ financial burden became much lighter.

Gradually, my family’s life improved. The people around us also treated us better.”

After moving to Can Tho, Nguyen and his wife sought out the very people who had treated them badly and helped their children get money for school through Tom’s Kids. The former neighbors welcomed them warmly.

Ngan’s mother explained their motivation:

“God has lifted my husband and me out of the mud, and I want everyone around us to see the beautiful change that comes from being in God.”

She invited many poor children and relatives to their house to learn English and become familiar with God’s Word.

“When my stepfather was alive, almost every day he drove her to visit poor families. My stepfather was happy to take my mother anywhere, even when the muddy rural roads were difficult to travel.

He always supported her in visiting poor families.”

“My mother would go to their homes and talk with the children’s parents and grandparents. She said that she wanted to seek out people who were in the most difficult circumstances because they would accept God’s Word more easily.

My mother wanted their lives to change for the better, both spiritually and materially, when they became children of God.”

“Now my stepfather is no longer with us, but every day I remember everything he did for me. If he had been a selfish and unkind man, he would not have taken me in and let me live with his family in Saigon.

And if I had not moved to Saigon, I would not have met Tom.”

“I understand that everyone will eventually die, but death in Christ is life. His kindness and compassion gave me the opportunity to meet the person who changed my life.

Tom is the one who brought me to Christ, and Christ brought glory to my family.”

“We do not need to be rich to do God’s work. As long as we have a kind heart, we also can change someone’s life.

And God gets the glory.”

This is the Gospel in action—not mere words, but transformed lives demonstrating Christ’s power to redeem, restore, and reconcile. From crushing poverty and social rejection to thriving ministry and abundant life, this family’s journey proves that God’s grace truly is sufficient and His power made perfect in weakness.

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