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An Unexpected Invitation That Changed Everything
Faith Facts
- An American visitor was invited to participate in a multi-day Vietnamese funeral ceremony, experiencing profound Christian fellowship across cultures
- The memorial service featured Scripture from Revelation 14:13, celebrating eternal rest for believers who die in the Lord
- Missionary Tom Tune’s compassionate outreach transformed an impoverished Vietnamese family, leading to multiple baptisms and the launch of a thriving Christian English school
Imagine preparing to host a visitor from halfway around the world when a beloved family member suddenly passes away. Most of us would scramble to find another host, worried about imposing grief on a stranger.
But that’s not how faith works in Vietnam, where the body of Christ transcends cultural boundaries in ways that put our Western sensibilities to shame.
Shortly after arriving in Ho Chi Minh City to meet contact Hai Huynh, an American visitor found himself whisked away on the back of a scooter to the funeral of Nguyen Chau Son, a man he’d never met. What could have been an awkward intrusion became a profound lesson in Christian community and the eternal hope we share in Christ.
Nguyen’s casket stood in a family room opening onto a neighborhood street in Can Tho, a city of 1.5 million in Vietnam’s Mekong Delta. Above the casket hung a digital sign scrolling messages of mourning.
Elaborate floral arrangements filled the room. Next to Nguyen’s photo stood a Bible verse in Vietnamese—Revelation 14:13.
“I heard a voice from heaven saying, ‘Blessed are those who die in the Lord from now on! The Holy Spirit said, ‘Yes, for they rest from their labors, and their works follow them.'”
The visitor had met Nguyen’s stepdaughter, Ngan, more than a decade earlier in Oklahoma City. Legendary sailor and longtime South Pacific missionary Tom Tune brought her by for introductions as she started graduate school at Oklahoma Christian University.
While working in Vietnam, Tom had started a program helping poor Vietnamese families pay for education. His efforts resulted in multiple baptisms, including Nguyen and his entire family—a testament to the power of practical Christian love.
Ngan, once shy and overwhelmed, had returned to Vietnam and launched an English school with multiple campuses serving hundreds of students. Even while mourning her stepfather, she greeted her American friend warmly.
In Vietnam, funerals are multi-day affairs. The family set up two tents and tables in the street and began cooking—and cooking and cooking.
Between visits into the countryside to meet families served by the growing Church of Christ in Can Tho, someone was always preparing a meal, always pulling guests toward tables to share in feasts. Plate after plate of prawns, beef, pork and chicken appeared, along with great bowls of pho, the Vietnamese soup with rice noodles.
The food was amazing, but the fellowship proved even better. Extended family members and teachers from the English school gathered to share stories and laughter.
We often say we want funerals to feel like celebrations. This one genuinely did—a true celebration of eternal life in Christ, not morbid ritual or empty ceremony.
At least once daily, mourners gathered around the casket as Hai led hymns in Vietnamese, including “I Need Thee Every Hour” and “There’s Sunshine in My Soul.” The American visitor was asked to pray for the family—mercifully, in English.
On the final morning, men in red uniforms with yellow stripes arrived to take down the scrolling sign and load the casket onto an elaborately ornamented truck. Ngan, her mother (known as “Miss Eight”), and immediate family wore white, Vietnam’s traditional mourning color, and carried photos of Nguyen.
At the cemetery and crematorium about 20 minutes away, after more hymns and prayers, the family said final goodbyes and shed tears. The visitor found himself remembering loved ones lost over the past decade—evidence of how shared grief in Christ transcends all earthly divisions.
He also thought about countless lives lost in the decades-long Vietnam conflict. The war changed and damaged so many Americans who served there.
What a blessing it would be if Vietnam veterans able to travel could experience the wonderful hospitality of these amazing people—to see how God’s redemptive power can heal even the deepest wounds between nations.
Steve Hawley, a longtime educator and church member from Houston who spends a month annually working with the school, wasn’t surprised by the story. Over the years, he’s participated in weddings and betrothal ceremonies in Vietnam.
“When you are there, you are family!”
Maybe we should invite fellow believers—even those we don’t know well—to our memorial services. If indeed we’re to bear each other’s burdens and share each other’s lives, as Paul tells us in Galatians 6, shouldn’t we participate in each other’s mourning?
This is what the universal Church should look like—crossing oceans, cultures, and languages to demonstrate that in Christ, we truly are family.
Memories of a Transformed Life
Ngan shared reflections about her stepfather that reveal the transformative power of Christian compassion:
“He was a very kind and loving man. Even though I was not his biological child, he treated me very kindly and supported me through school.
As each year began, he would take me on an old motorcycle (borrowed from a neighbor) to buy new schoolbooks, notebooks and a schoolbag.”
“He treated me fairly, just like his own biological child. Every week, he gave me 20,000 VND (50 cents) to put into my piggy bank so that when Vietnamese Tết (New Year) came around, I could use that money to buy new clothes.”
Nguyen married Ngan’s mother and moved to the countryside where her grandmother lived, working as a farmer. They built a small thatched hut in the middle of the field and grew vegetables, papayas and oranges to sell.
But they still faced tremendous difficulties without enough money to live comfortably.
“They were very poor, and the neighbors looked down on them. There was a wedding near our home involving a family that was related to us, but they did not invite my stepfather and mother because they thought that my parents were very poor and that would affect their reputation.”
“My mother was looked down upon and treated very badly by our neighbors and relatives. When she asked to borrow money and food, they told her to leave and cursed her.
They would not let their children be friends with me because they said my mother was not a respectable woman because she had been married three times (before she came to know God). They did not let their children sit in the same class as me.”
Hoping for better opportunities, the family moved to Saigon (Ho Chi Minh City). Four families—15 people total—lived together in one house with only one bathroom.
Nguyen worked as a security guard for very little pay. A neighbor lent Ngan’s mother a sewing machine so she could mend clothes to help support the family.
“Although our family life was somewhat more stable than when we were in the countryside, we still faced great financial difficulties. My stepfather’s friends were other security guards, and my mother’s friends were lottery ticket sellers and recyclables collectors—people from the poorest classes of society.
Our family was never invited to any parties either.”
Then everything changed when they met Tom Tune in 2005. Tom came to their house and invited the family to eat at a buffet restaurant.
“It was the first time in our lives that we had eaten such delicious food and sat in such a luxurious place.”
“From that point on, our family came to know God. Tom helped my sister and me get money for our education through his ministry, Tom’s Kids, and my parents’ financial burden became much lighter.
Gradually, my family’s life improved. The people around us also treated us better.”
After moving to Can Tho, Nguyen and his wife sought out the very people who had treated them badly and helped their children get money for school through Tom’s Kids. The former neighbors welcomed them warmly.
Ngan’s mother explained their motivation:
“God has lifted my husband and me out of the mud, and I want everyone around us to see the beautiful change that comes from being in God.”
She invited many poor children and relatives to their house to learn English and become familiar with God’s Word.
“When my stepfather was alive, almost every day he drove her to visit poor families. My stepfather was happy to take my mother anywhere, even when the muddy rural roads were difficult to travel.
He always supported her in visiting poor families.”
“My mother would go to their homes and talk with the children’s parents and grandparents. She said that she wanted to seek out people who were in the most difficult circumstances because they would accept God’s Word more easily.
My mother wanted their lives to change for the better, both spiritually and materially, when they became children of God.”
“Now my stepfather is no longer with us, but every day I remember everything he did for me. If he had been a selfish and unkind man, he would not have taken me in and let me live with his family in Saigon.
And if I had not moved to Saigon, I would not have met Tom.”
“I understand that everyone will eventually die, but death in Christ is life. His kindness and compassion gave me the opportunity to meet the person who changed my life.
Tom is the one who brought me to Christ, and Christ brought glory to my family.”
“We do not need to be rich to do God’s work. As long as we have a kind heart, we also can change someone’s life.
And God gets the glory.”
This is the Gospel in action—not mere words, but transformed lives demonstrating Christ’s power to redeem, restore, and reconcile. From crushing poverty and social rejection to thriving ministry and abundant life, this family’s journey proves that God’s grace truly is sufficient and His power made perfect in weakness.
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From 9/11 Survivor to Warrior Against Modern-Day Slavery
Faith Facts
- A survivor of the 9/11 attacks arrived in America in 2001 with only $50 and two suitcases, searching for purpose
- The tragedy became a turning point that eventually led to a divine calling to fight human trafficking
- A cry for help from a trafficking victim revealed God’s purpose for his survival
When the Twin Towers fell on September 11, 2001, one man’s brush with death would become the beginning of an extraordinary journey of faith and purpose. Having arrived in America just months earlier with nothing but hope and determination, he had no idea that surviving one of history’s darkest days would set him on a path to rescue others from darkness.
The survivor recalls arriving on American soil with modest means — just $50 in his pocket and two suitcases containing all his worldly possessions. He came with dreams like so many immigrants before him, but without a clear sense of calling or direction for his life.
“When I arrived in America in 2001 with $50 and two suitcases, I had dreams — but no sense of purpose.”
Then came September 11th. The attacks that shook our nation and took nearly 3,000 innocent lives also marked a turning point in his own story. The trauma and survival would plant seeds that wouldn’t fully bloom for years to come.
“Then 9/11 changed everything, and it would take years, and a cry for help from a trafficking victim, before I understood why I survived.”
In the years following that fateful day, he searched for meaning in his survival. Why had God spared him when so many perished? The answer wouldn’t come immediately, but when it did, it arrived with unmistakable clarity.
The moment of revelation came through the desperate plea of a human trafficking victim. In that cry for help, he finally understood the divine purpose behind his survival — he was meant to be a voice for the voiceless and a defender of the vulnerable.
Human trafficking remains one of the darkest sins plaguing our modern world, with millions trapped in various forms of slavery. It’s an evil that Christians are called to confront, standing firm on biblical principles that affirm the dignity and worth of every human life created in God’s image.
This survivor’s transformation from a man without purpose to a warrior against human trafficking exemplifies how God can redeem even our most traumatic experiences. His story serves as a powerful reminder that our trials often prepare us for our true calling.
The fight against human trafficking requires courage, commitment, and compassion — qualities forged in the fires of adversity. For this 9/11 survivor, those qualities were born from ashes and refined through years of searching for meaning.
His journey demonstrates a fundamental truth that resonates with Christian values: no experience is wasted in God’s economy. Every hardship can become a tool for His purpose, and every survival story can inspire others to action.
As Americans who cherish freedom and human dignity, we must join the fight against modern slavery in all its forms. Whether through prayer, advocacy, or direct action, we each have a role to play in protecting the vulnerable and pursuing justice.
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The Crisis Most Churches Are Missing When Foster Children Turn 18
Faith Facts
- Over 20,000 foster youth age out of the system annually with no family support or safety net
- Christian communities are being called to provide long-term mentorship and support beyond the foster care system’s cutoff age
- A single committed adult can transform the trajectory of a young person’s life after foster care ends
Every year, more than 20,000 young Americans reach the age when the foster care system stops caring. At 18, often alone and unprepared, these young men and women are suddenly cut off from the only support structure they’ve known. No family waiting. No safety net to catch them. And far too often, no one showing up to help them navigate adulthood.
For the American Church, this represents both a sobering failure and a profound opportunity. These aren’t statistics — they’re sons and daughters, created in God’s image, who desperately need the body of Christ to live out the Biblical call to care for the fatherless.
The transition out of foster care is perilous. Without family connections or financial resources, many of these young adults face homelessness, unemployment, and a future that seems impossibly dark. The challenges they encounter would overwhelm anyone, let alone teenagers who have already experienced trauma and instability.
But there is hope, and it comes in a surprisingly simple form: one caring adult who refuses to walk away. Research consistently shows that young people who have at least one committed mentor or supportive adult in their lives fare dramatically better than those who face the world alone.
This is where the Church should be stepping forward with conviction and compassion. Christian families and individuals across America are uniquely positioned to provide the long-term relationships these young people need. This isn’t just foster care — it’s spiritual family, extended beyond legal obligations and bureaucratic timelines.
The call to care for orphans didn’t come with an age limit. James 1:27 reminds believers that pure religion includes looking after orphans in their distress. When the government stops providing care at 18, the Church’s responsibility doesn’t end — it intensifies.
Many churches are already answering this call through mentorship programs, housing assistance, job training, and simply by opening their homes and hearts. But the need far exceeds the current response. Thousands of young people are still falling through the cracks because Christians haven’t fully recognized this mission field in their own communities.
The beauty of this ministry is that it doesn’t require specialized training or massive resources. It requires presence, consistency, and love — showing up for birthdays, helping with job applications, answering late-night calls, being the family that biology or circumstance didn’t provide.
For congregations serious about putting faith into action, supporting aged-out foster youth offers a practical way to live out the Gospel. It’s messy, challenging, and requires long-term commitment. But it’s also exactly what Jesus modeled: entering into broken situations and refusing to abandon the vulnerable.
American churches have a legacy of leading social reform and caring for society’s most vulnerable. From the abolition movement to crisis pregnancy centers, Christians have historically recognized that faith demands action. Supporting aged-out foster youth is the next frontier of this faithful witness.
The question facing every believer isn’t whether these young people need help — the data makes that clear. The question is whether we will be the ones who show up, who refuse to walk away, who become the family they never had.
This generation of foster youth didn’t choose their circumstances, but the Church can choose its response. Twenty thousand young people will age out this year. Will twenty thousand Christians step forward?
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Why Your Accountability Partner Isn’t Enough to Keep You on Track
Faith Facts
- One-on-one accountability relationships often fail when built on just two people, according to ministry leader Derek Hughes
- Scripture emphasizes communal accountability through the body of Christ, not isolated pairs
- Christian men are rediscovering that faithful accountability requires multiple witnesses and a community of support
For years, the standard advice in Christian circles has been simple: find an accountability partner. One trusted friend, one phone call away, one person to keep you honest. But what happens when that relationship quietly fades, when the texts go unanswered, when life gets busy and the weekly check-ins stop?
Derek Hughes has watched this pattern repeat itself countless times. After years of seeing one-to-one mentoring relationships collapse under the weight of unspoken expectations, he began asking a difficult question: What if accountability was never designed to rest on the shoulders of just two people?
The traditional accountability partner model sounds biblical on the surface. We’re told that iron sharpens iron, that two are better than one. But Hughes suggests we may have misunderstood the blueprint. The early church didn’t practice accountability in isolated pairs—they practiced it in community, with elders overseeing the flock, with brothers and sisters bearing one another’s burdens together.
When accountability exists between just two people, several problems emerge. First, there’s no backup when one person falters or life circumstances change. Second, the relationship can become unbalanced, with one person doing all the confessing and the other doing all the advising. Third, without multiple perspectives, blind spots go unaddressed and poor counsel can go unchallenged.
The Scripture speaks of accountability in the context of the body of Christ—not isolated limbs, but interconnected members. When Paul instructed the Galatians to “bear one another’s burdens,” he was addressing the entire church community, not suggesting they pair off into accountability duos. When James wrote about confessing sins to one another, he envisioned a community of believers walking in transparency together.
Hughes advocates for what he calls “a room” rather than just “a pair.” This means small groups of three to five men or women who meet regularly, where accountability is shared among multiple relationships. In this setting, if one person misses a meeting, the group continues. If one member offers unwise counsel, others can provide correction. If someone struggles, multiple believers are there to support and pray.
This isn’t about abandoning close friendships or one-on-one discipleship. Those relationships remain vital. But when it comes to the vulnerable work of accountability—confessing struggles, addressing sin patterns, pursuing growth—there’s wisdom in having multiple witnesses and supporters rather than placing all that weight on a single friendship.
The isolation of the one-to-one model can also create unhealthy dynamics. One person may feel responsible for “fixing” the other. Codependency can develop. Or worse, the accountability becomes superficial, with both parties going through the motions of asking surface-level questions while avoiding the harder conversations.
In contrast, a small group provides built-in checks and balances. Different members bring different perspectives, life experiences, and spiritual gifts. One may offer wise counsel, another encouragement, another tough love when needed. The diversity strengthens the accountability rather than weakening it.
For Christian men especially, this shift could address the epidemic of isolation many face. Studies show Christian men are increasingly disconnected from meaningful friendships and spiritual community. The pressure to “find an accountability partner” can feel daunting, and when that relationship inevitably falters, men often retreat into isolation rather than trying again.
A small group removes some of that pressure. There’s less riding on any single relationship. The commitment is to the group, not to performing a role in someone else’s spiritual life. And the shared experience of walking together toward holiness creates bonds that isolated pairs often lack.
This approach also aligns better with how church discipline and restoration are described in Scripture. When Jesus outlined the process for addressing sin in Matthew 18, He spoke of bringing one or two others, then telling it to the church. The pattern moves toward community involvement, not away from it.
Hughes isn’t suggesting that every Christian needs to join a formal accountability group immediately. But he is challenging the assumption that accountability primarily happens in pairs. For those who have tried and failed at the accountability partner model, perhaps the issue wasn’t a lack of commitment or the wrong partner—perhaps the structure itself was insufficient.
The beauty of accountability in community is that it mirrors the gospel itself. We aren’t saved into isolation but into the body of Christ. We don’t grow alone but together, as living stones being built into a spiritual house. Our sanctification happens in relationship with other believers, shaped by their prayers, challenged by their questions, encouraged by their faithfulness.
As churches and ministries rethink how to foster genuine accountability, the shift from pairs to small communities could prove transformative. It won’t solve every problem, and it requires commitment from multiple people rather than just two. But for those who have experienced the quiet collapse of yet another accountability partnership, it offers a more sustainable, biblical path forward.
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